I came up to the conclusion that whatever reduces your immediate “will-work” helps you move towards your goal. Short term motivation has its own limitations - it can help to kick off your journey but usually slows you down long-term.
And letting go your expectations is indeed a great example of this as it affects your immediate motivation and therefore reduces the ability to work consistently.
Putting the planner in charge of your life is also helpful as a way of delegating responsibility of making small actions to external actor which is stronger than a will which can be prone to fluctuations, while keeping yourself in charge of the global direction of your life
Beautifully expressed reflections Ivan - thank you for sharing! I am just back to Berlin after some weeks in my van. Good to be back but also interesting. I like to crack open my routine when on the road, and then see what I can adjust when I return. So a period of experimentation ahead - and of saying "YES" to life!
i regularly struggle with consistency - mostly in times when my mental health is not good. i'm naturally a very ambitious and perfectionist person, so it has been hard to come to terms with the fact that sometimes, i am not able to reach my daily goals. i've been learning to be kind to myself in those times - any progress i've made is not gone because of a few bad days. a day in which i cannot mentally or physically work towards one of my goals is not a wasted day, it does not ruin all the work i've already put towards reaching said goal. all i can do is try tomorrow, and if it works i can be proud of myself, but if it doesn't, i don't have to put myself down. "You do it out of a value you want to live by.", as you say - that is something that helped me so much when i actually realized and started to internalize it, because all of a sudden, i am the only one i am accountable to, and even though i tend to be my own worst critic, it helped me to be kinder to myself :)
I think you're doing so great Jana, and again, thank you for your open words about what you're going through, and how you're tackling it.
On a pragmatic level, something which has really helped me is putting only 5 things on my list for the day - and trying my best to actually achieve them. I've found its a classic case of less is more.
Thanks a lot! I sometimes worry I might be oversharing, but then again, I always appreciate others' insight on these topics.
That's such a good idea! I might put that to use as well. What has helped me as well was to make weekly to do lists instead of daily ones. That put less pressure on me to perform on a specific day, and I got overall more productive per day.
OMG! 🤩 l love how you quote Thich Nhat Hahn. He was such an inspirational person in pretty much every way possible. ☸️ A truly remarkable human being! ✨You have just taken a massive jump upwards in my respect for you in this single act alone!! 🤣
This whole piece resonated with me but one thing (apart from your TNT quote at the end) you said, was gold-“You don’t do it because of something you want from the world. You do it out of a value you want to live by”-spot on!! 👏👏
Ah what a lovely message to return to dear Adele! A little exhausted after having my liver pounded by the family the last few days - so will seek some of that blasted consistency the old me was blethering on about! Hug & looking forward to liver wrecking together! x
A quote from your domestic goddess, Nigella Lawson, comes to mind: “Everything in moderation, including moderation.” A wee gem to justify both; a lack of moderation in relation.to your consumption of bevies at the weekend & taking time out from your usual dedication to consistency! 🤣 Let me know when you have recovered enough to want to go at it again! 🍻XOX 😘
I came up to the conclusion that whatever reduces your immediate “will-work” helps you move towards your goal. Short term motivation has its own limitations - it can help to kick off your journey but usually slows you down long-term.
And letting go your expectations is indeed a great example of this as it affects your immediate motivation and therefore reduces the ability to work consistently.
Putting the planner in charge of your life is also helpful as a way of delegating responsibility of making small actions to external actor which is stronger than a will which can be prone to fluctuations, while keeping yourself in charge of the global direction of your life
Beautifully expressed reflections Ivan - thank you for sharing! I am just back to Berlin after some weeks in my van. Good to be back but also interesting. I like to crack open my routine when on the road, and then see what I can adjust when I return. So a period of experimentation ahead - and of saying "YES" to life!
i regularly struggle with consistency - mostly in times when my mental health is not good. i'm naturally a very ambitious and perfectionist person, so it has been hard to come to terms with the fact that sometimes, i am not able to reach my daily goals. i've been learning to be kind to myself in those times - any progress i've made is not gone because of a few bad days. a day in which i cannot mentally or physically work towards one of my goals is not a wasted day, it does not ruin all the work i've already put towards reaching said goal. all i can do is try tomorrow, and if it works i can be proud of myself, but if it doesn't, i don't have to put myself down. "You do it out of a value you want to live by.", as you say - that is something that helped me so much when i actually realized and started to internalize it, because all of a sudden, i am the only one i am accountable to, and even though i tend to be my own worst critic, it helped me to be kinder to myself :)
I think you're doing so great Jana, and again, thank you for your open words about what you're going through, and how you're tackling it.
On a pragmatic level, something which has really helped me is putting only 5 things on my list for the day - and trying my best to actually achieve them. I've found its a classic case of less is more.
Have a nice evening! Jim
Thanks a lot! I sometimes worry I might be oversharing, but then again, I always appreciate others' insight on these topics.
That's such a good idea! I might put that to use as well. What has helped me as well was to make weekly to do lists instead of daily ones. That put less pressure on me to perform on a specific day, and I got overall more productive per day.
OMG! 🤩 l love how you quote Thich Nhat Hahn. He was such an inspirational person in pretty much every way possible. ☸️ A truly remarkable human being! ✨You have just taken a massive jump upwards in my respect for you in this single act alone!! 🤣
This whole piece resonated with me but one thing (apart from your TNT quote at the end) you said, was gold-“You don’t do it because of something you want from the world. You do it out of a value you want to live by”-spot on!! 👏👏
Thank you. 🙏 A great start to my weekend! 😘
Ah what a lovely message to return to dear Adele! A little exhausted after having my liver pounded by the family the last few days - so will seek some of that blasted consistency the old me was blethering on about! Hug & looking forward to liver wrecking together! x
A quote from your domestic goddess, Nigella Lawson, comes to mind: “Everything in moderation, including moderation.” A wee gem to justify both; a lack of moderation in relation.to your consumption of bevies at the weekend & taking time out from your usual dedication to consistency! 🤣 Let me know when you have recovered enough to want to go at it again! 🍻XOX 😘
Haha, that is such a great quotation Adele! xx